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Stop Letting Your Closet Bully You.

Ever go into your closet to get dressed and feel frustrated, sad, or overwhelmed?

Not a great way to start each day, huh?

Let’s fix that!


Our closet should be like a great party - you open the doors and it’s only the people you like.  The people at this party comment on how nice you look, how that shirt brings out your eyes, and those shoes… fabulous!  


But instead, a lot of us have closets that say things like:

“your arms are looking a little flabby, so don’t you dare wear this”

“you loved this before Fido ripped a hole in it and now you can’t wear it again”

“people may notice you have gained weight if you wear this shirt”

“you don’t have a place to wear this, so you wasted your money - how irresponsible”


Sheesh!  That was harsh.  And to be honest, I didn’t enjoy writing that one bit.  But the reality is that we let the items in our closet say those horrible things to us every day.


So let’s not linger on the negative.  How can we make changes, so that we feel good when we get dressed?


1)  Pull out each item of clothing.

2)  Ask yourself - does this fit my body today and do I feel good in it?

3)  If there is any reason you say no, let it go!

4)  If you’re not sure the answer, go ahead and try it on right now.  If you wouldn’t want to wear it today, all day… the answer is no.  


Give yourself permission that for today, you are not going to feel guilty about what you need to let go of.  Doesn’t matter the cost, where it ends up, etc.  The biggest focus is that if an item is being mean to you - it doesn’t get to stay in your closet.


*Note: I suggest keeping only one bin for clothes you want to keep, in case your sizing changes.  These items should only be clothing that you absolutely love and would be difficult to replace.    


For the items you said no to - put them in a bag and take it straight to donation.  Know that you made a sound decision and can move forward with confidence.  If any clothing is stained, ripped, or worn out, please don’t donate.  These can be taken to a clothing recycling place (Master Provisions in NKY) or in the trash.


Job well done!  I am proud of you!


But wait! What if you’re now left with holes in your wardrobe because you did such a stellar job?  Maybe you got rid of your only formal dress or your only pair of jean shorts.  Now is your opportunity to find an item that actually suits you.  I would argue that it is worth the time and money to replace items that you need to.  You can do this over time, especially since many of us have more than enough clothing in our closet to get us through.


How wonderful would it be if it took you mere minutes to pick out your outfit for the day and spend the day feeling amazing in it?  That is absolutely a possibility.  I’ll argue that having a closet curated with clothes that make you feel good about yourself is a form of self love.  And you deserve that.  Period.


Get rid of the bullies and do not let in anymore clothing that doesn’t tell you how fabulous you are!  

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